De-Jonesing Your True Meaning of Success 

What does it mean to de-Jones your true meaning of success. 

Dictionary.com defines success as: 

  1. the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one's goals.
  2. the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.
  3. a performance or achievement that is marked by success, as by the attainment of honors. 
  4. a person or thing that has had success, as measured by attainment of goals, wealth, etc.
  5. Typical definitions include having posh homes, nice cars, private school for your children, the latest gadgets and designer clothes.
  6. Although the specific meaning of for each individual professional may vary, our definition will likely include making a lot of money and accumulating wealth.  I know I have been and continue to work within this meaning despite my best efforts. 


For another person it will mean obtaining a general sense of happiness or having a happy family life or finding a special lover or a soul mate.  

What does the true meaning of success include for you? 

  •          Having a happy family life?
  •          Affording a gorgeous home?
  •          Affording a nice automobile?
  •          Being able to send your kids to private school?
  •          Enjoying total health?
  •          Enjoying a sense of happiness most of the time?
  •          Being able to afford luxurious ski vacations?
  •          Being able to afford luxurious beach vacations?
  •          To be addiction free?
  •          To automate all or a portion of your income? 

The fact is, that if I think about Tim Ferris and his book, the 4 Hour Work Week or Chris Guilleabeau’s, The Art of Non Conformity, I see two leaders in our society who are encouraging us all to change our own true meaning of success to something that works for each of us individually.  They suggest we change the definition for ourselves, and for those around us.  They suggest that the best way to do this is by immediately living and experiencing success as it means to each of us, to and having the tenacity to stick to our plan and desires despite naysayers, to muster the strength to swim against the tide, and to pursue a living that is based upon production and contribution rather than just on the consumption of most of our waking hours.  

I am not talking about being a non-conformist for being a non-conformist’s sake:, that is what we would call contrarian or being oppositional defiant. It is easy to say no to things, but more challenging and rewarding to create our lives. 

What I am saying is that the true meaning of success means living a life where you have the guts to become unstuck from a miserable routine of being on auto-pilot, unstuck from a life that keeps you on the hamster wheel of work, sleep, buying stuff, payments, buying more stuff, watching mindless television, playing mindless computer games, and engaging in behaviors that have crossed the line to addiction.  

Hey, and none of this is easy she says as she writes this and is about to commence a work day that includes a grueling and intense trial, that will not likely include exercise, and will not likely include any significant time in the sunshine on what is a beautiful spring morning on the west coast of British Columbia . . . . 


Written by Val Hemminger, the nonconforming professional

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